This is not going to be a long blog because for those of us in the States this is Thanksgiving week. We are busy prepping, making lists, wondering if politics will be the actual turkey at the table and getting ready to travel or host.
In all that frantic rush it is so easy for us to start to focus on the "crap the store is out of", member X of my guests will annoy member Y, am I really going to get all of this done ? For me I do not really stress it.
The first Thanksgiving I made was in an apartment I had that was 600 sq feet. Yeah the place was tiny. It meant my friends who were coming over, as this was for them and it was the week before, were going to find a place and not have to use the bathroom once they sat down if they chose the other side of the table. The table was actually borrowed folding card tables and pretty much with seats, also borrowed and folding, took up the entire living/dining room. I asked for no help from my mother, yeah I was 20 so of course I knew it all, and nicely bought a frozen turkey that day. Did you just gasp ? I put it in the bathtub w cold water to defrost it -- at least I had a bathtub - after radiating myself by running an old fashioned microwave with the door open and half the turkey in. I may also have over estimated and thought 2lbs per person so this thing was more of a brontosaurs sized bird than anything else.
The turkey was made with an oven that had a tendency to go off, help of one of the guests, doused in beer (still think it was delicious) and feast was served at around 10pm. Somehow it makes for good story and it was filled with laughter and yes people were creative in getting in and out of the room with the table.
I did not really stress then and I do not stress now. I am much more organized, I get organic birds at obnoxious per pound prices and of course like everyone I know who is in immigrant have my own take on what goes with Thanksgiving. The turkey is a staple other things not so much.
I love Thanksgiving - favorite holiday ever. I love it because how awesome is it to have a day marked to take a look at what we are grateful for. This year I realized how grateful I am to my mom. She really is an amazing person. My mom is really giving and even when we do not see eye to eye through time I have come to appreciate how she gives me wide leeway to have an opinion. That may not seem like a big deal but it is because it is her way of empowering me. She is a radical feminist that does not admit it.
I loved the crazy first Thanksgiving for the same reason I love the current one and future ones. It gives me a chance to send little notes to people who make my life that much better and tell them I love them, maybe make a date to give them a big ass kiss. It is a time where I take stock and think while there is so much that breaks me in the world there are so many people who want to make it right. There is so much beauty, creativity and wonder in the world that I am grateful for - so many super smart people in my life or that I read about that give me hope.
So go forth and do not wait until the day of to buy your frozen turkey but take a moment this Thanksgiving to appreciate the people you choose to be grateful for.
PS if you like the image it is from HamptonPaperdesigns.com - it is their thankful cards, helps as folks write down what they are grateful for, usually at least one good chuckle in there from one guest or my sons.